In 2017, SmartMom launched the Real Life SmartMom series featuring your favorite Mommy Bloggers, experts and influencers. We go to these women for advice, recipes, support and whenever Google comes up with an answer we don’t like. Let’s get to know these amazing mommas a bit better – why? Because they are SmartMoms; and smart moms talk to SmartMoms.
This week we invite Safi Salgado to join the SmartMom community. She shares her journey through motherhood with us on her blog and Instagram, covering all sorts of topics ranging from favorite recipes (sneaking in healthy “Hulk” pancakes for her son into our Instagram story takeover), product reviews, helpful mom tips, and opening up discussions about being a woman as well as being a mother.
At SmartMom, we love the fact that she presents opportunities for moms to engage and embrace the womanly side, striking a healthy balance for a happy, healthy motherhood journey. We hope you get to know Safi better below!
Tell us about your kids: names, ages, and fun facts.
I have an almost four-year-old named Grayson. I may be biased, but I think he has the best personality. He’s hilarious, wild and so sweet. He’s currently obsessed with dinosaurs and transformers and loves baking with me and playing soccer with his daddy.
What are some of your favorite things about your kids?
I love that Gray is always happy and is so quick to forgive. Even though we call him the destroyer (he loves destroying anything in sight lol), he is so sweet and has such a huge heart. He is insanely smart and he constantly surprises us with the funny and insightful things he says. He totally gets my love language (words of affirmation) and is always complimenting me or saying he loves me.
Who do you look up to for parenting advice?
I look up to my mom for parenting advice. I have also discovered that the community of moms that I’ve found through Instagram has been so helpful for me when I need advice or when I need to feel like I’m not alone.
How would you describe what you do for your blog?
I am fairly new to blogging so I’m still trying to figure it all out. I take the majority of my photos and edit them during the weekend. I need to get better at batching my blog posts, but I currently write them whenever I get a free chunk of time. During the week I try to push content out on Pinterest and Facebook during my half-hour lunch.
How do you balance work and family?
Balance is definitely a constant struggle for me. Some weeks I’m up to my ears in collabs and other weeks I have more time to devote to my family. I do make an effort to get my photos done on Saturday when my husband is at work so it doesn’t cut into our family time together. Our morning commute is a special time for Gray and I. We do affirmations, talk about what we’re grateful for and play a couple of games. My husband and I also try to get in some alone time as much as possible, whether it be a date night or a few minutes alone after Gray is asleep.
What does an ideal day look like for you?
During the week, an ideal day consists of me waking up at 5:30, getting ready, doing my morning routine and getting a super short workout in. Then I wake Gray up and get him ready, drop him off at the babysitter then go to work. When I get off of work around 4:30, I pick Gray up and we spend a few minutes playing before I do a BBG workout. I usually start dinner after that and then we eat and my husband and I might try to watch a show with a glass of wine for a bit before I bathe Gray. We always read a book, say three things we’re grateful for and say a prayer before Gray goes to sleep. My husband and Gray pretty much always go to sleep before me so I try to catch up on photo editing, blogging and creating my post and caption for the next day after they’re asleep. I shower and do my extensive skincare routine last, and I try to be in bed by 11:00.
What were some of the biggest questions you had or challenges you faced as a first-time mom?
I would say that the biggest challenge I faced as a first-time mom was thinking that I wasn’t doing enough. I constantly felt mom guilt about every little thing, and always felt too guilty to do anything for myself.
How did becoming a mom change who you are?
It changed who I am in every way imaginable. After spending my whole life only worrying about myself and so many trivial things it was such a big shift to have a little person who was completely reliant on me. All of the things that used to seem important weren’t even priorities anymore and I started viewing my time as something so valuable. Becoming a mom has definitely made me less selfish, I’m now a master multitasker and my priorities have completely changed.
What are you favorite baby products you’ve discovered since becoming a parent?
Swaddle blankets and baby carriers were the biggest life savers for me when Gray was younger. Gray had pretty bad baby eczema so products like the Lush Cosmetics Dream Cream and all of the Tubby Todd products were super helpful. I also think that having a good stroller is so important-we have the Uppa Baby Cruz and a Bobs jogging stroller.
What was the most surprising or unexpected thing about becoming a mom?
The most surprising thing about becoming a mom was how long it’s possible to go without sleep. Gray didn’t sleep through the night until I weaned him at 2 ½ yrs old and I definitely did not expect that. Another thing that I didn’t expect was how unifying motherhood is. It doesn’t matter if you breastfeed or bottle feed, sleep train or co-sleep we all just want what’s best for our babies and that is something that I think bonds all mothers.