At SmartMom, we are very excited to announce a new blogger series featuring your favorite Mommy Bloggers! We go to them for advice, recipes, support and whenever Google comes up with an answer we don’t like. Let’s get to know the mommies behind these amazing blogs a bit better – why? Because they are SmartMoms; and smart moms talk to SmartMoms.
This week we hear from Belle Bermudez-Tubel of One Awesome Momma. Awesome is right! Belle is a fashion and lifestyle mommy blogger who gives us mommas just what we want: adorable pictures of her kids in matching, stylish outfits! Chambray, rompers, and crop tops – oh my! We just can’t get enough. Belle shares how her love of shoes and handbags will never compare to how she feels for her littles. Get to know the awesome momma below.
Here are some questions we asked –
Tell us about your kids: names, ages, and fun facts.
I have 2 kids – Alex and Xoey. Alex is 2 while Xoey is 1. Alex is a very sweet little girl who loves her brother so much; she loves to take care of him especially when he cries. She always makes sure she’s there to comfort him then she’d say “I’m here.” Xoey is a very sweet yet sensitive boy who always looks forward to the time we’ll spend together. As soon as he hears his sister is awake, he’ll rush to go to the room and greet her.
What are some of your favorite things about your kids?
My kids are the best thing that ever happened to me, they are my life’s greatest blessings. I LOVE coming home to them after a long exhausting day at work. They just make everything so worth it. As soon as I feel their wet kisses and warm hugs, my day would be perfect. Their precious laugh is what reminds me that everything will be okay.
Who do you look up to for parenting advice?
I make it a point that I always ask my husband’s input for any decision I am about to make regarding our kids even with the little things such as what costume to wear for Halloween. But in the event that we both don’t know what to do and can’t come to a decision, I would always ask my mom friends who have experienced the same things we are going through. They don’t really tell me what I need to do but somehow their insights and opinions allow us to think better. I am blessed to have a lot of mom friends who are willing to help all the time.
How would you describe what you do for your blog?
I write about the things I love and enjoy in the hopes that it will help others. I write about my experience about being a mom as I go through it and what I learned from it. I write about beauty products and fashion tips, sometimes I also write about shopping tips. I’ve also shared some trips we’ve taken.
How do you balance work and family?
I try my best to not do any work, if it could be prevented, whenever I’m at home with my family. If I really have to though, I do it in the quickest possible time so I can spend the rest of the day with them. However, anytime that we are out somewhere, that’s when I make sure that I am present and I am enjoying each and every second with them.
What does an ideal day look like for you?
It would be one where my husband and I don’t need to work and we’ll spend the entire day with the kids – playing with them, making some crafts with them, dancing with them, hearing their precious laughs, taking them to a playground or farm because they love slides and animals. Doing all of these with little to no tantrum throwing would be perfect. Then after the kids go to bed, my husband and I will spend the rest of the night enjoying a few bottles of beer while watching a movie we both like.
What were some of the biggest questions you had or challenges you faced as a first time mom?
It was really tough that I didn’t have anyone, other than my husband, to help and guide us during the first year. We had to figure out everything for ourselves to find out what works and what doesn’t. I did a bunch of reading but no amount of that would have prepared us for the real thing. We just learned as we went along.
How did becoming a mom change who you are?
It changed me a lot. Everything used to revolve around me and my husband, and how I want to go to this place and that place. I used to shop A LOT for myself – I love shoes, bags, clothes, accessories, make up. Not a week or 2 will go by without buying something for myself. I used to enjoy staying up late and going out with my friends. But those have changed after I had my daughter.
Everything revolves around them now. The only places that I love to go to these days are for kids. The only things that I enjoy shopping for are for them. And my definition of a good time nowadays is what I had described in my ideal day.
Also being a mom makes you treasure your family even more. I’d rather go through the struggles and challenges of raising children and pay for expensive daycare than have a more financially stable household by sending them to my parents in the Philippines. My parents have always asked me to send the kids to them so we don’t have to pay for daycare every month. Every time they bring that up, I would always say no. The reason we had kids is so that we can raise them and enjoy each moment with them; we’ll be able to earn the money that we lost because of the daycare expense but we won’t be able to bring back their childhood if we missed that.
What are you favorite baby products you’ve discovered since becoming a parent?
I know Vaseline is not a baby product but it really helped with my kids’ eczema. My son’s eczema was more extreme than my daughter’s and we literally tried everything we possibly could but only Vaseline helped. Now, we always make sure that we have at least one huge container at home.
I LOVE Honest diapers. That’s what my kids have been using. We’ve tried several different brands but that is what their skin loved.
A friend of mine has told me about Noodle & Boo products. I tried it and loved it instantly! Their bath products and lotion smell heavenly. If you’re a mom, especially with a newborn, I am sure you will love their products.
What was the most surprising or unexpected thing about becoming a mom?
That it changes you a lot – I am discovering fears I didn’t know I have; and courage I didn’t know exists. I have always been scared of driving so my husband would always drive me around. But since I had my daughter, I just magically worked up the courage to learn and do it for her. Kids can make you do things never in a million years you thought you’d be capable of.
That you could love 2 kids evenly in the most unconditional way. It’s so consuming that sometimes just thinking about them can make you tear up.
And that it makes you appreciate and love your husband even more. It makes your relationship stronger.