In 2017, SmartMom launched a blogger series featuring your favorite Mommy Bloggers. We go to them for advice, recipes, support and whenever Google comes up with an answer we don’t like. Let’s get to know the mommies behind these amazing blogs a bit better – why? Because they are SmartMoms; and smart moms talk to SmartMoms.
This week we hear from Andrea Levoff AKA Dope Ass Mom! Andrea is mom to two kids while building her business as a professional mom-supporter. That’s right – she works hard to make sure moms have the support they need – mom friends, mom resources, mom time, and mom wine (of course). Get to know Dope Ass Mom below.
Here are some questions we asked –
Tell us about your kids: names, ages, and fun facts.
My kids are Anna (7) and Max (5) aka “banana brain” and “Maxie baby.”
What are some of your favorite things about your kids?
Anna is hilarious and full of joy. She walks into a room and talks to anyone and everyone. Max is more quiet and shy, and also my resident cuddle bug. They are so different, I love that about them.
Who do you look up to for parenting advice?
Dr. Shefali – I love all her books on Conscious parenting. It’s all about transforming ourselves in order to be a better parent. Also, my parents, I think they did a great job with me if I do say so myself.
How would you describe what you do for your blog and business? Do you host local events?
I help moms find their purpose and cultivate their own joy so that they can be better moms for their kids. I take on a few one-on-one clients and host local events for moms to get out and meet each other. I happen to be hosting a local event this Thursday in Chicago, IL. If you’re in the area, get a babysitter and meet me at Porkchop in the West Loop at 7:30pm! A dope ass group of moms will be learning how to mix cocktails using bitters. RSVP and invite your friends!
How do you balance work and family?
The short answer is some days are better than others. I really try to be present with what I’m doing. So if I’m working I’m doing it 100% and when I’m with my kids I’m giving them all my attention. This helps with the frazzled feeling when you are giving your energy to 10 different things at one time. I’m lucky that my work and my family as so closely intertwined. When I’m working and expressing my creativity, I’m a much happier and more fulfilled mommy. My kids pick up on that so I never feel guilty about taking time away from them to build my business.
What does an ideal day look like for you?
Wake up before the kids to meditate and drink my coffee. I need quiet time alone in the morning to connect to myself. Have a quiet morning at home with the kids and then head out to do a fun activity with the family. When the weather is nice I love just walking around our neighborhood or meeting friends at the park. I love spending a few hours a day writing a blog or brainstorming new ideas. Some days I have a call with a client. Most evenings my husband and I cook dinner together or we order in (my favorite is pizza) and Chicago has so many options it’s like different food groups all together! After dinner we bathe the kids and put them to bed. I love catching up on Netfilx shows with my husband or just getting into bed early and reading a good book.
What were some of the biggest questions you had or challenges you faced as a first time mom?
Besides the fact that I didn’t know anything? I had no idea how hard and tiring parenting would be. I also faced feeling isolated before I made mom friends. My husband would go to work in the mornings and I couldn’t wait for him to get home. Looking back I feel bad for him. I’m sure I talked his ear off because he was really the only adult I saw for quite some time! Once my kids started going to classes and making friends it was a lot easier to meet other moms.
How did becoming a mom change who you are?
I changed in so many ways. I also stayed the same in so many ways! I think there is this notion that we become this new person when we become a mother. That somehow we are supposed to abandon the person we were before motherhood. I work really hard to help women feel integrated in their new role. When a child is born a mother is born. I think being patient with yourself as you journey into new ground is the most important thing. When I became a mother my capacity to love increased ten fold. It was this heart expanding experience that I don’t think anyone can understand except another mom. Our ability to love increases and that applies to our kids and to ourselves!
What are your favorite baby products you’ve discovered since becoming a parent?
This is going to sound so messed up but do you know about the Nosefrida aka the snotsucker!? It’s so gross but so satisfying at the same time. And it works! When your baby has a cold there is absolutely nothing you can do for them except clear their nose so they can breath. If you don’t have one, run don’t walk to your nearest grocery store!
What was the most surprising or unexpected thing about becoming a mom?
How hard yet how rewarding it is. If I knew what I know now about kids I’m not sure I would have had them so willingly! It is no joke the most challenging role I’ve ever taken on. Yet there is so much growth waiting for us in motherhood. When I look at my kids as teachers, they show me parts of myself that need healing and love. If we open ourselves up to the lesson the richness waiting on the other side is so deep and rewarding. It might sound like a cliché but it’s true. It’s hard but it’s worth it.