We are visiting in laws with our 3 month old son and they just keep giving my wife horrible advice like he needs to be drinking water/juice, he should be eating table food. We expressly asked them not to feed him anything and I turn my back and my mother in law is putting Debbie cake cream in his mouth. My spouse and I got in a big fight because I felt it was complete disregard and disrespect. How would you handle?

Jessica M 6 likes

Grrrrrrr I'm so sorry! I think it's your spouses place to say something, though. Seriously? Cake?

Austin S 4 likes

My mil is the same. We just keep telling her no. Luckily my so agrees with me. But whatever we don't agree that she does, we talk about it at home and decide to back each other up whether we agree on it or not. We have to stick together as parents

Ashley H 2 likes

I probably would have freaked out in them right then and there. I'm not a confrontational person but when it comes to my kids my inlaws know I will lose it!

Elizabeth . 2 likes

Gosh, there have been a lot of posts on this lately. Some really crazy MILs! I would NEVER put something in anyone else's baby's mouth without consulting the parents!! That is so obvious to me! I argued with my husband about this too when his mother was sneaking my daughter hotdogs! My daughter would be just as happy eating mashed peas!....

Jessica M 2 likes

Omg, I remember u from last night too! The in laws with the smoky house. Honey, make up an excuse and get out of there!

Elizabeth . 1 like

...My MIL constantly wants to feed her sugary cookies and whipped creamed cakes and chips. I can't believe it. I've said no each time. At least she asks now, I'll give her credit for that. Provide your own food and snacks when u go over. I do now so there is no question what she should eat

Krista M 2 likes

He definitely has to be on your side at least when it comes to them. It should look like he doesn't want your LO to have it

Tricia B 6 likes

That's nuts!!! 3 months old is way too young. Their little digestive system can't handle that stuff right now. And for them not to respect your wishes is more than frustrating. You are right! Stick to your motherly instinct!!! I'm sorry you have to worry about that instead of enjoying your time.

Austin S 1 like

I agree with Elizabeth, bring your own snacks/foods that you are allowing (if you're allowing any foods yet)

Tricia B 3 likes

No he does not need water or juice. To each their own but I'm not a big fan of juice. There is no reason for it. By 6 months they are getting fruit and formula/breast milk is their only liquid. My pediatrician told me I was a breathe of fresh air because a lot of people give their baby's juice and its really not necessary. It leads to tooth decay and in some cases baby's will refuse their milk. Not good. You are right they are wrong. Lol Sry but that really ticks me off

Jessica M 3 likes

Dude, juice isn't good for anyone at any age, look at the ingredients. Unless u are doing fresh-squeezed, and even then u should only have a little. Think about how much juice u get from squeezing one orange-then think of how many oranges it would take to get a tall glass full. Nobody needs 10 oranges in one sitting.

Elizabeth . 1 like

Absolutely right Jessica!

Elizabeth 1 like

You politely explain to your in-laws that the only thing your child is allowed to consume at this stage in their life is formula and/or breast milk. If they have any other concerns or questions, you would gladly have your pediatrician talk to them. Btw: Water can interfere with the body's ability to absorb the nutrients in breast milk or formula. Also, Babies who drink to much water can develop develop a condition known as water intoxication, which can cause seizures and even a coma.

Elly L 1 like

Your S/O should support your decision and back you on not letting you little one eat that junk. To keep from having an in-law confrontation, have you spouse talk to them about respecting your wishes. If that doesn't work, then take it upon yourself and have a conversation stating your ways and reasonings. It's fun to spoil kids with treats sometimes, but it is ultimately your choice. Not to mention Little Debbie's are so unhealthy! Best of luck :)

N K 2 likes

Call the cops!

Steph P 3 likes

I will never understand people's obsession with feeding babies inappropriate foods. Never. I'm sorry that you have to deal with that.

Kimberly H 1 like

That's just sad disrespectful and out of place of them. Cake?!?? Smh

Mommy And M 1 like

I don't need to provide snacks, he's 3 months old and only eats formula lol. He shouldn't nor is he able to eat anything else. He can't even sit up yet. These people infuriate me.

Mommy And M 2 likes

I don't want him consuming sugar or the crap processed food they feed their kids. I don't agree with the parenting of her family on most issues.

Caitlin V 2 likes

Talk to your SO and make it clear that if your MiL isn't going to follow what you literally just told her, how can you expect her to follow any other rules you set for your child? It's not just about this one thing- it's about setting a precedent. You have to know that when you two make rules, you both will stick to them and the people you let handle your child will too. Otherwise you can't trust those people and it would be a shame if your LO didn't get time with grandma because of that.

Mommy And M 3 likes

Thank God we live 10 hours away from these people

Mommy And M 1 like

Caitlin that was exactly why my spouse and I got into it. I said if you don't speak up now they will do it everytime.

I<3mybabyboy 1 like

Why do in laws have to be so annoying!! Trust me I deal with it every week. My mil was a sahm and she knows everything about everything! Lord!

Caitlin V 1 like

For sure! I know from lots of experience with both my own parents and in-laws (my husbands parents were never married... So two sets of in laws!) that if you let them do it once, they will do it again and again. And if they are understanding, they will be hurt that you didn't just say something. And if they aren't... Well you just don't spend a lot of time visiting them.

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