So my fiancé was talking today and wants to get a second night job and for me to be a SAHM. I've been at my job for 4 years, but don't get enough hours. He's a general manager and we still don't make enough money still. I'm extremely nervous. I have always had a job! And sometimes my job is my only break and now we really won't have any time to spend together. This is a hard decision. How do you moms like being a SAHM?

Kisha O 3 likes

I love being a SAHM, but I do miss working!

Baby J's M 1 like

I'm in the same predicament. I asked this question this morning. I'm still torn about what to do! Lol

Erin B 0 likes

Right now he works 5 to 230 and I work 3 to 11. So we barely see each other unless I have a day off. Now it's gonna get worse.

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I love being a stay at home mom, but I'll admit I do miss adult interaction. I have never worked though

Chrissy G 1 like

I love being a SAHM, my SO's income is enough to support us all (2 adults, 1 baby, 1 on the way, +2 dogs). However we live 4hrs from family/friends and live on an acreage, so it can get pretty lonely, we try to do a lot of outdoor activities to keep busy. If I was to go back to work (which being 36weeks I can't anyways) my wage would cover childcare with not much left over. IMO I would rather stay home with my kids than put them in daycare.

Ms w 3 likes

What is SAHM means? Sorry guys😁

Chrissy G 0 likes

That being said they will still go into DC a few times a month when they're older to get some socialization with other kids and for days I want to grocery shop alone/make appts for myself etc. 😊

Erin B 1 like

Stay at home mom 😃

Krystal K 0 likes

I love being a SAHM, but I miss working. Don't get me wrong I love spending time with my kids, but for me spending every second with my kids can be hard.

Sunshine F 0 likes

I have worked since I was 16 till 28 years old and now home with my baby. I love it not a boring moment for sure! But miss working for sure. Seeing my baby grow up....wouldn't give that up for anything!

Erin B 0 likes

Well it's me, fiancé, and our two boy. 19 months and 6 months. I think I would enjoy staying home but I would miss working. I don't know what it's like to not work. Plus we only have one car at the moment so I wouldn't be able to really take the boys anywhere during the day. But I guess it is what's best for ours babies that we have more money.

Erin B 0 likes

For both of my kids to go to daycare is 1000 a month. There's no way we can pay that. We have daycare assistance here (idk if they have that where you're from) but you have to work at least 24 hours a week. I'm like 2 hours short and my employer will NOT give me any more hours even though I've begged

Maggie F 0 likes

I quit my job to be with my kids. I was climbing up the corporate ladder and doing well. Do I miss it? Yes, honesty sometimes I do. Do I regret my decision? No. This is a special time in life. You will never get these years back with your kids. (You can always get another job.) Truly, your SO is giving you a gift...time at home with your kids while they want and NEED to be with mommy. Yes, there are hard days, but I still wouldn't trade my days home with my kids for a job, no matter how nice.

K.C. R 2 likes

It's so worth staying at home.


Erin, do whatever makes you comfortable. But remember kids should be around other children and people in general. Although in a daycare your baby might get sick or hurt unintentionally. Being a Stay-At-Home-Mom (SAHM) currently I miss working but it's also difficult for me to get a job. I would like to be out of my house for more than a couple of hours even if it's a couple of times a week so my MIL or husband can watch baby on their days off. So no need for daycare. 😊

Brittanyyy G 0 likes

I work 2 nights a week a land it seems to be enough for me. I don't know if you would have a babysitter if you were to still work a night or 2 if your fiancé decides to work another job but if it's even only once a week it's nice to interact with other people

Erin B 0 likes

I could always babysit! 😃 I didn't even think of that. He could work and I could watch some friends kids so the boys would have some kids to play with and I could make a little money

Laura D 0 likes

Yeah babysitting is def an idea. Check out I decided to stay home with LO and work on the weekends at retail a few hours sat and Sunday. So I still get to stay at home with LO during the week , see hubby at night and LO is being taken care of by hubby and not some stranger at daycare. Plus I get some adult interaction on the weekends which is good

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