So my baby girl is 5 days old, and ever since we've been discharged from the hospital and been home. I've been crying everyday, and just feel super overwhelmed with all of this. I'm a first time mom, so I have no idea what I'm doing. I'm so in love with my angel, and so happy. But I'm just scared, and sad and overwhelmed. I haven't slept at all. I'm just not sure what to do with myself. I kinda miss when it was just me and my hubby. Is this depression? Or, normal? Am I bad mom?! Idk what to do!

Caitlyn S 1 like

It's normal to feel a bit overwhelmed , hormones are brutal too but you nest go talk to your doctor

Raquel B 1 like

Completely normal. I, and all of my friends and family, went through it. You are not alone and it will pass.

M. S 3 likes

I have never had ppd, but I think it would be a good idea to talk to your doctor/midwife asap. I never experienced any of those systems, baby blues are normal but it's better to talk to someone who can identify if these feelings are more serious.. You deserve to be enjoying this special time:)

M. S 1 like


immortelle 1 like

Pretty normal but if you still feel upset talk to the docs! Try to get fam or your SO to step up and help you more.

Brittany P 1 like

Hi ! Congrats on your daughter :) But no you are NOT a bad mom I felt the same way when we came home all I did was cry at the drop of a dime, I thought I was going crazy. But remember your not alone it most likely is post partum it will pass.

Coryn P 2 likes

Normal!! I cried every day for like 4mo haha. It's hard work being a momma. Your hormones are trying to "right" themselves, you're not sleeping, and there's a tiny human who relies on you for everything. It's stressful. Give your body some time, but don't be afraid to talk it out or seek help from a professional. :)

MommaJ 3 likes

I didn't have post partum depression but I did have baby blues for a few weeks. It's hard. You're going through all sorts of changes and your tired and doing more than your used to. It's normal. Although if it continues for too long it could be post partum depression and then I would recommend you talk to your doctor about it. Your hormones are all crazy so don't feel alone every new mommy goes through it. Just take a break and breath you'll get through it. Good luck.

Sirena L 2 likes

See your doctor. I was on a low dose anti-anxiety then stopped when I found out I was pregnant. I had super melt downs too. Went back on my meds and feel like a new person. It is hard work! Are you breastfeeding?

Carrie W 1 like

I felt the same way. I was exhausted and anxious and emotional all the time . At about two months I felt like me again when my hormones balanced out. Keep hanging in there mama :)!

Lisa D 1 like

I felt that way for about 3-4 weeks. It fades. If it doesn't speak to your ObGyn. He/she can help. It's very overwhelming but you're doing a good job mama. It always made me feel better to hear those words ...

Margaret S 1 like

I felt the exact same way for the first 1-2 weeks. Baby blues are worse then anybody says. I missed my husband terribly at first (even when he was right there) - it gets better!! If you still feel that way after 3-4 weeks then call your doctor.

divina R 1 like

It's a huge adjustment. And I promise you it gets so much better with time. I felt so selfish missing how things were before baby. But now I can't imagine any other way. I didn't fully adjust until about 7-10 months. Hang in there and try and get some sleep, it'll help a lot.

Nancy D 1 like

It's normal I felt the same way just try to stay positive and happy so it won't turn in to depression! You're not. Bad mom it's just things are different now good luck mommy 👍

Sofie D 1 like

All normal! I cried for three weeks, the one day I felt fine.

Melissa C 1 like

I remember those exact same feelings! I remember thinking "what have I done?" and I just missed my husband so much and he was sitting right next to me! Tell yourself to give it about ten days for your hormones to settle down and you'll start to feel better and more like you in a few weeks. It's a very hard transition, but you are the woman for the job! Don't overdue it right now. Sleep and eat when baby does. It's ok if you're laughing one minute and crying the next. Very normal! Congrats!

Kamilla 1 like

My LO is 5 weeks old. I understand your feelings. Just do what your heart tell you to do. You and baby gonna be just fine. All first time mommy don't know what to do but we can do it. Good luck.

Amy R 1 like

It is normal because your LO is only 5 days old and its a huge adjustment on your body, marriage, and life. I definitely went through this. For me the first month was terrible, month 2 a little better and now we're in month 3 and I have completely adjusted and loving motherhood. Try finding a little time for yourself everyday to sleep, meditate, watch tv whatever. This app also helped me a lot. If you don't feel a change within 2 weeks talk to your doc. Good luck!!

Linsi M 1 like

Totally normal to feel completely overwhelmed!! Your hormones are completely out of whack & it will take them a while to normalize. I know the slightest things made me cry right after delivery.

Ashley G 1 like

For about 2 weeks I found myself crying and laughing at the same time! I thought I was losing my mind! But it's completely normal! Your body has just undergone a major/traumatic overhaul. Let yourself feel sad, happy, anxious, etc! It will get better, give it a couple weeks. If it doesn't, let your doctor know! But hang in there momma, it's only temporary and you're completely normal! Just make sure to take some time for yourself and try to relax at least once a day!

Jessica G 1 like

I suffered from severe depression while I was pregnant & PP was not great. I talked to my midwifes. I was very lucky, in Minnesota we has "mother baby day hospital" which helps parental & post partum moms with a verity of mental health issues. I strongly recommend talking to your doc or midwifes.

Jessica G 1 like

Your not alone.

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