My daughter was recently assessed as having a language delay (expressive) and we are fighting like hell to get speech therapy. My insurance company denied the claim (which I am in the process of appealing) and the free services offered by the state are difficult to get so I'm working on that as well. My daughter (21 mos) is also being evaluated for any other developmental delays bc she didn't score well on a M-Chat test for autism. Continuing in comment ..

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This evaluation will take place over the next couple of weeks. I'm concerned bc I don't think she's behind bc she has autism. She has always hit milestones at her own pace. I'm concerned she might get this label just so we can access resources to help her with whatever learning delays she may have. If this happens, can having such a label negatively impact her?

Shayna B 0 likes

If she is talking at all then she most likely doesn't have autism. Most autistic kids won't talk at all until they are older like 3-4 years old

Tanisha D 0 likes

Agreed. Most kids wit autism don't tlk or tend to shy away from social activities wit other kids. My son is 7 wit a speech delay. When he started school I enrolled him in speech but got him tested they the school district. Before that I just practiced sounding out words with him. He's going great!

Jennifer S 0 likes

First off what state are you in? If your child has a disability there are federal laws that require your state to provide services. Such laws as IDEA, ADA, and more! Each state has different programs for the early age groups. I would contact the local school system and ask them what the programs are. They may fall under the school system or they may be state regulated either way the school system can at least give you names of programs so you know what to ask for/about.

Sarah R 1 like

Ok first I need to clear the last comment up about autistic children not talking till they are 3-4 years old, that is simply not true. Autism comes in many shapes and yes children with "classic" autism probably won't speak until then. We have TWO children with Autism Spectrum Disorder. The oldest is now 13 the other little guy is just turned 2. Both spoke before 3. Cale our oldest had a large vocabulary about 50 words before age two but he could string sentences together. (See next comment)

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But Cale would have massive meltdowns. Banging his head for no reason, he would line toys up in a row or color sort things instead of play with them and he would turn his tricycle over and soon the wheel for hours. I knew something was wrong. After several years of therapy and a proper diagnosis of Aspergers at age 7, he is a happy 13yo. He goes to public school, he is a little socially awkward, has friends, a "girlfriend" and even goes to school dances. (See next comment)

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Timothy our little guy (2yo) he hit all his milestone by 1yo, crawled at 6m, walked at 12m, said mama, dada, babbled etc. he would give hugs look in the eye. Then about 14 months, I noticed he stopped talking, no eye contact, he would sit and spin wheels on his cars. I knew what was happening so I got early intervention here for services. He was diagnosed with ASD type 2. He receives hours of therapy a week. We live in MA so they have a lot available, we don't pay for any of it- read down

Sarah R 1 like

And wow this was a long post- my point is Autism doesn't look the same for every child. Most people don't realize Cale has it, we don't mind the "label" because it helps him get services at school if he needs it. http://www.ncsl.org/research/health/autism-and-insurance-coverage-state-laws.aspx This will tell you what states require insurance to pay for testing and treatment. Take a deep breath it will all be fine. And if you have any questions ask me!

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Thank you Sarah! Right now it seems the only evident and obvious problem is expressive language. She just started pointing to things and identifying body parts. She does play with her toys like they are meant to be played with. Although she does line things up and stack things, they are not her toys but cups and blocks. She also extremely affectionate although her interaction with other kids is so-so, she tends to be more independent but I think that's mainly her personality

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Bc I was like that as a child. She still puts the occasional crayon and playdough in her mouth but I think its intentional at this point bc I keep telling her 'no eat' and she puts it down and grins.

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She has 2 more sessions with a psychologist and she will make her determination. I also got the state reps to come out to do their own speech evaluation since our evaluation by a speech therapist apparently isn't good enough.

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I feel like I am being prejudiced by the state rep bc we are not low income by any means, but put insurance denied the claim and we cannot afford $400/month in speech therapy.

Sarah R 1 like

I take it you don't live in a state that requires the insurance to pay for such things? That would be one good thing if she does receive a "label" of ASD, there are a few bills in legislation now that would require all insurances to cover evals, therapy, etc for ASD.

Sarah R 1 like

And much of what you have said even putting things in her mouth are still within the acceptable normal range for her age, she is still young. Don't worry, you are doing everything you should be!!

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Thank you Sarah!!

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