Just commenting, a couple of things that I would advise parents to do with their kids. 1st: do not underestimate the power of there understanding; the moment they are able to throw temper tantrum is the moment they need a time out or disciplinary action. 2nd: sleep with out soothing is perfectly exceptable after 4m. Some moms feel 6m. I'm sorry but I have 3 kids every one of them could sleep by themselves without soothing since 4m. They are not traumatized.

Kayla B 3 likes

My son is 4m. I'm having trouble sleeping without soothing.

Caitlin V 4 likes

While I agree with the first (although what kind of discipline is subjective), I think the second can vary widely depending on the family. We had lots of success with co-sleeping and don't believe in placing baby in a separate room until a minimum of 18m.

Mommy O 1 like

I realize everyone is different and I am not pressing my advise. I know this worked for me. Again I have three kids. Some parents have commented that their kids would not sooth for sleep. This to me means they are past due to sleep by themselves by self soothing.

O & C's M 2 likes

I agree, Darlene! πŸ‘πŸΌπŸ‘πŸΌ

Krista M 2 likes

Yep...agreed...I just starting the self soothing to sleep...both my girls were started at 4 months...by 6 months into their own rooms...that way my restless sleeping didn't wake them and vice versa :) (I do have video monitors on in their rooms though)

Mommy O 1 like

18m is for me to old to be co-sleeping. But if you are comfortable with that go for it.

Kayla B 1 like

How do I let them self sooth!! My baby won't sleep unless I rock him or hold him!!

Mommy O 0 likes

A lot of the time if you have difficulty with them self soothing it's because you are not emotionally ready for it. I favor CIO. Sometimes hearing your baby makes it seem like forever. So set a timer for ten min. And go to a place that is quiet. Slowly progress time until they are winged of soothing. Also a bath and a full stomach help

Mommy O 0 likes

Or you could try rocking until their eyes are half closed and put them in a room where they don't see you. My youngest would wake up constantly when she was in my room, I was afraid to put her in the room with my other kids because she might cry and wake them up, and guess what she went to sleep and never woke up.

Mommy O 0 likes

With one child it took 20m for her to finally fall asleep with out me and it takes about a week or so for them to finally sleep without soothing

Mommy O 0 likes

Caitlin Valero, I left the first one up to debate to whom ever feels what is right form of discipline for their child. I am a firm believer in consistency it really doesn't matter what you use as long as they're consequences and consistency to bad behavior.

Tay B 1 like

I prefer responsive parenting. I have access to a university library research database and there are countless studies showing that responsive parenting yields the most positive results in children's behavior. This includes attending to them when they are upset. Different things work for different families, but I am a strong believer in research. I do not practice CIO and I am seeing excellent results so far in my 2 year old.

Jonica R 1 like

My sons 11months and he's thrown tantrums since he was 8 months. He's not able to understand discipline yet. I just stay by his side and help him learn to calm down. Babies don't understand their emotions yet.

Sarah U 2 likes

I wish I had the option of cio but with two babies In same room I have to quickly pick up the fussy one so the other can sleep 😭

Mommy O 1 like

Tay Bay, those are studies, not an individuals preference I have amazing results with my 4,3,and 9month old.

Mommy O 0 likes

Sara you might try leaving your room and let him CIO.

Mommy O 0 likes

Also I am a responsive parent for everything else, but when it comes to bed time they sleep better and longer when I do this method

Tay B 1 like

Yup, personal preference is definitely what people will go with. What works for one, doesn't always work for another. I chose my parenting style based on natural instincts and lots of literature. It works best for me and millions of other people. Just trying to give another side to the argument. You kind of said your statement as "matter of fact", when there is actually scientific based evidence suggesting otherwise.

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