I'm a new mom. I'm 31. I've worked my whole life. My husband wants me to quit my job and stay at home with the baby. At least until he starts school. We have the means to do this and I would LOVE to to stay home with my baby. I want to quit and raise my baby. What should I do?

Alisha R 1 like

If you are financially able, absolutely!! I am great-full to have a husband that is able to provide for our family! Do what is going to make you and your family feel happy and fulfilled.

Taylor & 4 likes

It's a big commitment and u can still work and raise a baby

Jenna L 1 like

I quit and stayed home with my oldest too only find it wasn't for me.. I felt better working. Maybe bc when I was at home I never got a "break" when she reached 3 mos I went back to work and was much happier. But my suggestion is to try it and see what best fits you!

Adele M 2 likes

I'm making the same decision but one day my son was sick and that made the decision for me, so I've decided to stay at home and give him the best thing I can, my love

Christine 2 likes

I'm a full time working mom. I've been working my whole life too and it's honestly just all I know. I get a lot of fulfillment and satisfaction out of my job. I enjoy working towards a common goal and being a member of a team. I feel like working helps me to be a better mom. It's up to you, but don't forget: You can always make more money, you can't make more time. They're only little once! Good luck making this very hard decision!

Stephanie W 7 likes

You can always go back to working if you feel like it, but you'll never get that time back with your baby!

Ciara B 1 like

Maybe just do part time 😊 U never know, what if sumthng comes up? Better to be safe than sorry. A fee hours of work a day won't hurt and then u can still be a (part time) stay at home mom.

Katie L 2 likes

Do what YOU want to do. If it works for yall that's great. I'm a stay at home mom and I LOVE it!! I quit my job when I got pregnant because I was high risk and I'm not going back at least till my daughter starts school. You may want to take off for a while at first and just see how it goes & if it's what you really want.

Gina B 1 like

Ultimately, it's up to you because everyone is different. Whatever decision you make doesn't make you any better or worse of a mother. I am a full time working mom. At first, I didn't mind. But now that she is learning to crawl and becoming more active, I want to be around her at all times! Because I work so much, I never leave her on the weekends. I just feel so guilty. If I had the option to stay home, I would. But that's me. I'm also not crazy about my job.

Lorene S 1 like

I agree with you! The first five years forms most of the child's adult life. And you don't want to be at work wishing you could be with your child😳

Melissa S 3 likes

So do it. You have more time in your life to work and not so much time to watch your child grow

Benjamin 7 3 likes

That's awesome! I'd definitely take advantage of it. Don't you want to see your babys firsts, teach them new things, watch them grow? It's great! I'm a sahm and love every second of it! 💕☺️

E B 1 like

This time will not come again. I'm your age with my first and worked as an RN for seven years. I quit my pharmacy doctoral program and my job to be a SAHM. It's not easy, but I have no regrets! If your inner voice is telling you that you want to be at home, follow that voice! Try this: close your eyes, relax all your muscles and focus on breathing. Think about each option separately noting your visceral reaction. Do you feel any tension, stress, etc with one over the other? Good luck!

Aprilbaby 1 like

If you want to stay home and can stay home then stay home. If you want to work then work. Or compromise and just work part time

Danie M 1 like

Stay home for a while and if it's not for you then go back to work, at least you can say you tried.. I have 3 kids age almost 10, 6 and 3 months, I stayed home for a few years with each then went back to work, I love being a sahm

Evie 1 like

I was in the same situation and I chose my baby. There will be plenty of time to go bck to work. Enjoy your baby while you can. Especially if you guys won't have any financial worries. It's totally worth it.

Melissa C 1 like

I recommend staying home with your baby! They're only little once and you can work when they're grown.

Heather B 5 likes

You ladies are so amazing! Thank you so much for your feedback! In my heart I want to stay home with my baby. Thank you for your input, it really helped ease my fears. I have my own side photography business that I plan on putting more time into and also plan on getting some certifications.

Angie F 1 like

Quit and raise your baby :) consider it a break from work. Work will always be available... Your babies 1st years will never be back

Nancy W 1 like

I made that decision while I was pregnant and even tho I miss the extra $ and work i love being home spending time with my baby. They are only babies once and once he goes to school I will be able to get a job again.

Katerina V 1 like

Ive been w my LO for 4 months and honestly as much as I love her, Im loosing my mind from same on routine!!! I started working once a week last week, eventually i want work 3 days by her first bday.. Idk if i want to leave her 5 days a week, i think if u dont need to work 5 days a week- dont, but part time job will keep u sane :)

Coryn P 1 like

I'm a STAHM also. I quit my job when I got in my third trimester bc I had a very taxing and exhausting job. I plan on being home until the kids are in school. It's extremely rewarding! And if you decide it isn't for you, then don't be ashamed to go back to work.

Teena S 1 like

You should quit and raise your baby because that's what you want to do and your family is privileged enough for you to do so...

Lisa W 1 like

I'm a stay a home mom I say go for it. I worked 40 plus hrs a week. I'm so happy I'm a stay at home mom now I love it. It's not always easy. they are only little once enjoy every second you get you can always go back to work later

Brittany S 1 like

Hey Heather I am in the same boat as you my dear, and yes you can do it both but there's nothing wrong with just being a mommy and a home maker. Listen to your heart I chose to stay at home until my little man can go to school. ❤️best wishes❤️

Jen R 1 like

Stay home if that's what you want! I quit my job after 10 years and love raising my kids. You can always go back to work but you can't get those early years back

Nicki I 2 likes

Keep up with hobbies & interests like yoga classes, date nights, possibly a hobby like crafting that can double as a little side job so you still feel productive and even volunteering. I developed a mommy OCD lifestyle so quickly that I stopped caring for myself as a woman and it effected my relationship as well as nearly every other aspect of my life. So try to stay aware, realistic & honest with yourself of your circumstances on a regular basis. :-) best of luck~ Momma Nicki

Nicki I 1 like

Keep up with hobbies & interests like yoga classes, date nights, possibly a hobby like crafting that can double as a little side job so you still feel productive and even volunteering. I developed a mommy OCD lifestyle so quickly that I stopped caring for myself as a woman and it effected my relationship as well as nearly every other aspect of my life. So try to stay aware, realistic & honest with yourself of your circumstances on a regular basis. :-) best of luck~ Momma Nicki

Heather B 0 likes

I'm so afraid that I won't find work when I'm ready to go back.

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