I feel like crying right now. My 10 year old son has an autism disorder, a mood disorder and ADHD. This morning my son told me that he wants to change his name. I asked him why. He said because if he has a cool new name he might have friends. I told him that his name (Alex) is a very cool name and he is a cool kid. He then asked "then why didn't I have any friends in 4th grade?". I wish I could make friends appear for him. Unfortunately some kids nowadays are so mean to kids who are different.

Jesika B 1 like

Oh, this makes my heart break. I want to cry with you. Growing up is so hard, even without being special. And being a Mom of one so special is so hard too. *hugs* kids are so cruel. Have you looked to see if there are any Autistic play groups? I would think that him being around other children his age and in his spectrum might be a great way for him to make friends that understand how cool he is :) my thoughts are with you! Keep up the good work! Amazingly Awesome Alex is a superhero to me :)

Michele H 1 like

Aww that's so sad! Breaks my heart!!

A V 1 like

There's not really much for autism playgroups around here that I have found. I will be looking harder though. There are social skills groups and different kinds of therapies but insurance doesn't cover those. I swear if he gets bullied this next school year like he did last year I will pull him out and homeschool him immediately. Thank you for the kind words! I wish all parents would raise their kids to be accepting of kids who are different. Cont.......

A V 1 like

Even before we got my sons diagnosis I was raising my kids not to see disabilities in people. There were numerous times we were around people who looked or acted different and my kids ran up and started making friends. Lol!

Coraly V 1 like

Does he have cousins to play with or any of your friends kids? Cousins are our first best friends growing up I encourage you to go out if possible to places where he can interact with kids there will be some who might not be interested but Im sure he can make friends that way.

A V 0 likes

He makes friends when we go to the park or the pool but they are gone once we come home. All of his cousins live in AZ and we are in Texas. I'm going to try harder to find an autism playgroup.

Jesika B 1 like

Where in Texas? I'm in Katy and all of our family is in AZ as well! I do agree with Coraly (beautiful name btw) my kidlets are so much more understanding of special needs children because they have 4 cousins with Autism.

A V 1 like

We live in Crowley (south of Fort Worth). The family in AZ is in Tucson.

Jesika B 1 like

Our family is all in the Phx area. If you're ever in the Houston area we should get together. My 9 yr old is really amazing with special needs children. And my 6 yr old just has the biggest heart. :) we'd love to have Alex come visit sometime!

A V 1 like

Houston is 5 or 6 hours away from us. Lol! But I will keep you in mind in case we are ever that way.

A V 1 like

My husbands grandma lives in casa grande which is kinda close to Phoenix. Lol!

Jesika B 1 like

Haha I have a lot of family in Thatcher and Safford. We just are missing eachother all over both states LOL

Sara J 0 likes

I know some parents who have tried some high interest activities for boys his age (baseball games, laser tag, go carts, etc.) and have him pick a few kids to invite to go along. Call the moms and let them know that you would love to take a couple kids go carting for example. It's a bit expensive but after a few times they will make some connections. Try to get to know the parents of the other student in his class, they might encourage their children to make some effort to include him.

A V 1 like

Some people at my husbands work made Alex feel so special today. There's one guy that has a really cool "handlebar" mustache and he has a paper with mustaches printed on them hanging on his door. Well my boys always take one. Alex took one today and the guy took a picture of him. We later found out that he put the picture on his twitter. Now Alex is so excited and keeps saying he is famous! That made his day!

Jesika B 1 like

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Lego M 0 likes

My 7 year old son is autistic and was diagnosed Acute ADHD. He is in medication for his ADHD; Daytrana. We were, and still are, a little concerned about his lack of friends. But we have put him in a some sports that "friendly" to autistic kids. He is in tae kwon do and will be starting golf camp in July. He is slowly starting to meet kids in these groups; learning how to socialize properly. It is in our nature to worry as parents, especially as a parent of a special needs child.

Lego M 0 likes

If you haven't already, enroll him in some sport or some type of camp. I hear martial arts, horseback riding, swimming even hiking groups are good for autistic children. He might me a friend with similar interests.

A V 0 likes

We've looked into karate but with his mood disorder anything remotely similar to violence is not good. He is in Boy Scouts and he has a few friends there. He is terrified of horses. He fell off his grandmas horse a couple years ago. I've heard about art classes for kids with autism around here and he likes set so I might look more into that.

Lego M 0 likes

Art classes might be the thing for your little one. Continue to explore what your community has to offer. That's how we found martial art classes for our boy, and he loves it. Didn't think he would.

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