How do you handle when your kindergartner goes to the Principal's Office? This is the third time this year. Obviously, what we are doing isn't working. What would you do for discipline?

Christine C 0 likes

What exactly is he doing to be sent to the principal? If you don't mind sharing.. I'm a teacher so I might have some tips.. What have you tried to curve his behavior?

Mich I 0 likes

Tell me more please. What types of behaviors are you seeing? I'm a veteran teacher and I'm happy to make suggestions.

Chelsea K 0 likes

Disrespectful, disruptive, not listening, not controlling his temper, not keeping hands & feet to himself, very impulsive, temper tantrums.

Cassie B 1 like

He might need to get tested for ADHD. My little cousin was the same way when he was that age but he eventually grew out of it when he was about 10 and got to stop taking medicine for it. He's probably just looking for attention that teachers can't give to each child individually and that can make it spike. Good luck, I hope things get better!

Chelsea K 0 likes

What am I doing wrong?

Chelsea K 1 like

Thank you, his pediatrician did diagnose him w ADHD when he was almost 4. But he was so young, we just weren't really sure. She suggested medicine but we declined. I have made adjustments to his diet though. What can I do to help this behavior? We don't want to turn to medicine. He will be 6 next week.

Chelsey H 1 like

I would say work with his teacher for a plan. Maybe he needs more individual attention or is bored in class. It's hard to fix the behavior at home if it's happening in school.

Christine C 1 like

At school the teacher should be using some sort of behavior chart that is taped to his desk so he can see.. Nothing too complicated.. It should be continued at home so there's consistency with expectations.. Also he may have a hard time when things are changing or tasks are changing so using a transition activity could be helpful..

Christine C 1 like

When my students throw tantrums I let them have it out.. Most tantrums are for attention so letting them release it and then talk with them seems to be more productive then trying to battle with them.. Also you may want to stop in unannounced and try to observe your child without them knowing you're there.. You will see how the teacher interacts during class time and may see something that triggers these behaviors instead of always just dealing with the end or consequences..

Chelsea K 0 likes

I agree. We don't seem to have as much problems at home. For this semester his teacher and I decided to do behavior log (16 behaviors) he gets 2 warnings, then a clip change. They start out on green...can move up to purple if they have an awesome day, from green you can move down to yellow, red, orange, then blue is the principal's office. So the goal is green or purple. She marks on his behavior log if he gets warnings and then the remaining behaviors that didn't get marked he is rewarded by

Chelsea K 0 likes

"Fuzzies" which go in a cup. They are suppose to go in daily and at the end of the week you can turn in your "fuzzies" for prizes or rewards. So far it hasn't been an impact...but his teacher also informed me she hasn't been able to put the "fuzzies" in his cup because she can't find the time. A little frustrating because she is finding time for "bad" behavior. I'm trying to teach my son at home how to handle situations at school and behave but I'm at home and not in a classroom with 24 others

Chelsea K 0 likes

I'm telling you, I have tried everything. Spankings, timeouts, taking things away. For ADHD we have tried, changing his diet, play therapy & counseling. Behavior plans with teachers. I am just lost at this point...

Chelsea K 0 likes

Those are great ideas! I actually use to be an aide in his Pre K classroom and so I got to see first hand how he acted out. He doesn't seem to do well in any "down" time, he's very intelligent, seems to already know things they are learning. He tries to help others but comes across bossy. Transition times are also a rough time for him. He has come a long way from Pre K days. He use to throw chairs and run out of the classroom when he was angry. The times he was angry all seem to vary. A common

Chelsea K 0 likes

Time was when he doesn't get his way. I know at home, if I talk to him in a disrespectful manner, he doesn't respond well at all! When I take the time and get on his level he is more likely to do what I ask of him. With this current teacher, I feel she has her hands full. She has told the classroom on more than one occasion to "shut up" I reported that and the principal said she was warned.

Chelsea K 0 likes

I know if my son was in a different classroom, all of my sons behaviors wouldn't be fixed just like that...but maybe a different teacher would handle situations differently. Either way, I try to explain to my son how to "react" to others but in the moment he is so impulsive. But we are still trying & talking about situations.

Cassie B 1 like

Do you have any friends with kids around the same age or does he have a really good friend at school? Try having a play date with a couple of them but try to incorporate learning activities. It should help him adjust to being in a classroom. If he throws a tantrum, just ignore it. When he cools down, ask him why he was mad and help him pick things up if he throws them and eventually let him do it on his own. Only do time outs or spankings if he refuses to help. Tell his teacher what you're

Cassie B 1 like

doing at home and try to get her to do the same things. This helped a lot with my cousin but he still got upset every once awhile. It's going to happen no matter what until he either grows out of it or it gets so bad that you have to end up putting him on medication. My thoughts are with you in these rough times

Christine C 1 like

I would say part of it is definitely his teacher.. You could also ask to see if he has a good buddy or friend in his class that he gets along with and can be partnered with.. Sometimes kids need someone who isn't an adult that can show him how he should be in class.. I've done it and it has worked..

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