When you’re pregnant, there is a rush of social gatherings that brighten your days. From baby showers, work parties, to birthday parties and special gatherings with friends, there seems to be a feeling of continually celebrating during this exciting time. Despite your best intentions, or how social you were before your baby, being a new mom can be an isolating experience. It’s hard to meet moms when you’re covered in spit up, lacking sleep and looking at a messy house. However, meeting other moms plays an important role in motherhood.
Whether you are a stay at home or working mom, meeting other moms can be difficult. The first step is getting out the door. Being willing to leave your home is the first step to meeting other moms, especially in those early days when you feel bogged down by all the things that are not getting done in light of your exhaustion. However, the power of getting out and meeting with another mom or a group of moms is so powerful. In my early days as a new mom, sleep deprivation was really getting to me. I decided to go to the park with my two month old and dog because I needed a change of scenery. I ended up running into a mom I knew and meeting another mom. We had hilarious conversations, I laughed, got to see other cute kids and felt a little like my old self again, if only for an hour! Connecting with other women who are going through or have gone through a similar stage was so refreshing. The camaraderie that you feel with other moms gives you more confidence and can help you troubleshoot situations as you learn and grow with your baby. Here are a few places you can find new moms to connect with:
Check your birthing class members. You will most likely take some sort of Lamaze class, hospital class or infant CPR class. These are often filled with other moms going through the same experiences, a perfect time to make a connection! Don’t be afraid to hand them your email address and suggest going out for coffee. Although it’s a “cold contact” connection, many of my friends have found lasting friendships with other women in their classes!
Check your Facebook feed. You will notice other moms who are pregnant around the same time as you. If possible, reach out before you have the baby to meet up. By doing this, you will have a connection before you have the baby and will make you more likely to get together afterwards. Also, mom friends do not have to have kids the same age as yours! I have made it a point to meet with moms who have kids of all ages. It does not matter the age gap, moms have all been in the same trenches! Plus, you get a whole new perspective from a mom who has been there, done that, and come out of it okay! There are also tons of local mom Facebook groups that connect moms selling things, asking questions and sharing resources. These virtual communities can add a feeling of camaraderie, as well as open you up to meaningful friendships!
Check your local play groups. Whether it’s swim class, music class, story time or a craft hour, these places are a great opportunity to meet new moms! It is easy to by shy or focused on your child during these types of events, but take advantage of the lovely ladies in attendance. Getting out for an interactive event with your child is fulfilling; however it can also create an opportunity to meet other moms.
Check your local fitness groups. Go to the gym! Wait, what? That’s right! Go to the gym! Exercising after having a baby is good for your body and mind. This is a great place to meet other moms. The connection of being in class can create great timing to grab a coffee or smoothie afterwards and swap stories. If you attend prenatal exercise classes, even better! There are also many workout groups like mommy boot camps and stroller jogging groups, so research your local “mom-centric” workout groups!
Making meaningful connections with other moms will help you be a better mom. It will help you feel happier through friendship, relieved when you hear you’re not alone, and fulfilled with meaningful conversation. Whether you meet once a week or connect by text message several times a day, relationships with other moms are beneficial and worthwhile in this journey of parenthood.
I’d like to meet other moms with a 2 1/2-3 month old? My LO is 10 weeks old as of Monday. & just like any other mom, I think she’s the most adorable baby ever! I absolutely love her more than anything!
My LO will be 4 months on Friday. I am the first of my friends to have a baby and I am very lucky and am going to be a stay at home mom. Where do you all meet people to have play dates or meet other moms.